There are numerous stories that could be told about the Random Dungeon Finder. The good ol’ LFD/LFG/looking for PAIN tool is a wonderful and horrible invention that can be used for good or for evil. Unfortunately, there are many people who seem happier to use it for the latter.
I have a lowbie Priest who is currently level 23, and has leveled purely through the dungeon finder so far. Through that I have come across many great players who have been willing to help out others who aren’t as good, as well as many players who have no clue what they are doing and don’t want to accept any suggestions at all. Of course, this doesn’t go just for the lowbie instances – my Druid main has come across many different types of people through the dungeon finder for regular and heroic dungeons at level 85 as well.
After all my experiences, I think that the most important thing to remember when with any group (LFD or not) is to have good communication. It doesn’t matter if it’s all guild members, one pug, or if it’s all completely random – if there’s a communication breakdown, failure is sure to come knocking at your door quite soon.
A good example would be a Wailing Caverns run that I did the other day on my priest. I don’t remember the exact makeup, but the tank was a paladin who didn’t like to listen and who liked to do his own thing. After killing the first boss, Lady Anacondra, 4 of the 5 of us drop down and proceed to the west side to start the trek to the second boss, Lord Cobrahn. The tank proceeds to continue around the top side towards where the Naralex event eventually happens at the end. In chat, we asked multiple times what he was doing and if he was going to come back to where the group was, and he never said anything. In hindsight, this would have been a good time to initiate a vote-kick.
The group was fine, since we had a hunter with us and the pet tanked just as good as the paladin was, and fortunately I was able to keep everyone alive. We put up with the tank’s eccentricities like randomly running ahead and getting new packs of mobs before we were done the previous ones, or randomly going afk for 5 minutes without saying anything. Once again, I’m thankful that we had the hunter’s pet to be a better tank than the one who was in the group.
Don’t be “that guy”. Don’t be the one that people write blog posts about, or laugh about with their guilds, or complain about to their wives. As a sidenote, I’m glad that my wife enjoys listening to my dungeon finder stories. It makes those brutal groups much easier to bear.
Try to help others who are having difficulties. Don’t post damage meters, because nobody cares (on that note, if you’re trying to see how you’re doing compared to others, you don’t need to announce it to the rest of the party). If you don’t know your way around, ask. If someone doesn’t know the way, help point them in the right direction.
It’s really not that difficult. If everyone puts in a little bit of kindness, it’ll go a long way. Maybe the idiot from the last group will pick something up from you, and next run will be a little bit less of an idiot. If during that run, someone gives him a few more pointers, he’ll be even less of an idiot. Hopefully the idiocy will flush itself out, but that’s just me being hopeful.
Remember Wheaton’s law: “Don’t be a dick.”